Anyone who knows me and knows my work, will attest to my belief that healthy relationships are the scaffolding of a thriving life. I believe that stripping back our layers of conditioning, and getting to know and take responsibility for ourselves as individuals, is foundational. But our self-relationships are not the destination. Being in sound relationship with others is.

Below are some key tips that I hope will help you accelerate the important relationships in your life. And if you would like some help in this regard, I would love to hear from you!

1. Communication is Key: Effective communication is crucial for a healthy relationship. I believe in the importance of open dialogue, active listening, and understanding each partner's perspectives. Regularly checking in with each other can prevent misunderstandings taking hold.

 2. Emotional Intelligence (EI): Developing emotional intelligence helps individuals recognize and manage their own emotions and those of others. High EI facilitates empathy, conflict resolution, and a deeper emotional connection. EI is highly developable and the reward on this investment is very high.

3. Practice Self-Care: Taking responsibility for our own self-care and personal growth are key to who and how we can be in relationship with others. A fulfilling individual life contributes to a healthier relationship, as each person brings their best selves to the partnership.

 4. Conflict Resolution: Conflict is natural in all relationships. Utilising strategies such as the "Speaker-Listener Technique," where one person speaks while the other listens without interrupting, ensures that both partners feel heard. Focusing on resolving issues rather than winning arguments will allow the relationship to bounce back from conflict and move forward with renewed understanding.

 5. Shared Goals and Values: Agreeing and aligning on long-term goals and core values allows each person know where they are headed and why this relationship is worth investing in. A shared vision for the future fosters unity and strengthens the partnership.

 6. Set Boundaries: Healthy relationships require clear boundaries. Discussing and establishing what is acceptable and what is not, allowing everyone to feel safe and respected in the relationship.

What are some of the relationship tools that you have found most useful? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.

I love this Ted talk by Climate activist Xiye Bastida, on her upbringing by Climate Activist parents, and how our inner fire can shape our actions for the good.

Think that “Wellbeing” and “Sustainability” are just nice to have in your business? Well think again! The data is clear - if you want to thrive as a business going forward, you need to actively design and run your business according to these key principles. And I would be delighted to help you achieve these critical goals!

In mid- March over 60 Psychologists from 35+ countries convened in Kingston Jamaica, to explore how we can collectively work together on (some of) the UN Sustainable Development Goals ( SDGs).

I wanted to take a post to highlight the incredible work of the Global Psychology Alliance (GPA). A group driven by the American Psychology Association (APA), with Psychologists from all over the World, who are “actively addressing global issues using psychological science to elevate the field and enhance human well-being around the world”

So many of us live life at pace. Responding to outside expectations and others’ notions of “normal.” Sometimes it can be hard to take stock. But ask yourself - is this how you want to be remembered?

The Climate Crisis is non-stop, every day. It’s a relentless story with very little positivity, and as a result many people tune it out. Understandably. It’s hard to wrap our heads around the enormity of it all, but with breaks encouraged, we do need to keep abreast and educate ourselves about what is going on and what is being done.

Climate change is the single most important issue facing humanity. We ARE Nature. And how we treat our environment has a direct impact on our physical and mental health. And vice versa. Interdependence is the key. And the time is NOW to come together, and harness this interdependency for our collective good.

There is so much conflicting medical information out there, that it is totally fair to feel bamboozled. As someone who has successfully recovered from years of chronic fatigue and heavy metal poisoning, and having had to travel abroad for medical care, I firmly believe in the approach that Functional medicine doctors take. Instead of simply medicating symptoms, they enquire into the personal and unique root causes of unease and disease, and formulate a personalised health care plan.

At the beginning of this calendar new year, with all and sundry touting the positives of their approach to a “healthier you,” I urge you to listen indeed, take stock for sure, but ultimately, to allow your focus and investments to be driven by your inner world. What do you personally need?

What happens when you finally get everything you’ve wanted, and you’re still not happy? What happens if you don’t know what makes you happy in the first place? What if you’ve been sold a pup?

I was delighted this month to be invited to give a talk to the faculty of the Santo Tomas University in the Philippines, on emergent models of Leadership that support climate change and sustainability.

One of the unexpected fall outs of the always on, never ending busy lives many people lead, is that this kind of living, leaves little room for the skilful management of endings.

The Inner Development Goals summit 2024 took place in Stockholm this month, bringing together global thought Leaders in this space. Over 3 days, a wealth of information sharing and experiential learning was made available to delegates who attended too, from around the globe.

Thrilled to share that once again I am offering these Women’s Workshops, online from Oct 8th, 12 noon to 2pm every second Tuesday, 5 workshops, over a 10-week span.

Maybe I’m the only one sick of hearing Coaches and Consultants banging on about performance - but I don’t think I am.

As a Chartered Work and Coaching Psychologist, I can help you, your team, your organisation achieve peak performance. I’ve helped hundreds of clients over decades to do this, but increasingly I don’t believe in performance as the target. Or certainly not the only target to aim for!

Although it’s a question oft posed as Shamans, and one I often offer my clients, the untimely passing of my young cousin recently, really brought this question into view again.

We’re all familiar with the beautiful image of a seemingly serene swan. A being who looks effortless in their movement, going about their day. But what we don’t see, is the furious paddling below water level. Not everything is as it seems on the surface.

As I do every year, I am taking a few weeks of extended leave, away from seeing clients. I need it to refresh my brain, and to take time for myself to take stock and regroup.

There is no doubt about it - rest is not valued in our society. While, in some quarters, I’m prepared to believe we are improving, I still believe that we do not value rest nearly as much as we should.